I have been struggling with a very strong thought in my head. There is this picture I have outlined in my head of a brand new and beautiful relationship.
We all know that in the beginning of these kinds of relationships, everything seems like it is the best thing ever and nothing can stop the love flowing between the two people. A few months later, this shift in the atmosphere hits and the two lovebirds are not as close as they were in the beginning. You hear things like "I trust you but you are testing my trust", or "I trusted you and you hurt me". Even in friendships, we see people hurt and torn apart because "trust" was broken. Is this pain really necessary to keep carrying around or allowing to continue happening?
My thought is this (and it may be strange):
What if we are NOT supposed to trust each other? What if God designed us to have faith in one another?
Like we see a chair, we know we can sit in that chair and not fall to the ground. We can see that this chair has 4 legs and looks pretty sturdy. We have faith that the chair will hold us when we sit down. The chair could be faulty, yet we take a risk anyways. Well, what about humans? We see each other. We know a thousand percent that we all have faults and flaws. Is it fair to say "I trust you" in knowing that the faults and flaws of that person can hinder the results of that trust continuing to hold strong?
Trust requires every fiber in our being to rely on the thing in which we place our trust. God is perfect. He will not fail us. I think it's a safe bet to say that I can put my trust in God and know I will not be disappointed. This does not mean that God will answer my prayers according to my means or my timing. So what may seem like trust is broken when God does not come to my calling according to how I THINK things should be handled, does not mean He has failed me. I am stronger (you are stronger) because when we fully put our trust in God, we can rest assured that HE is either working behind the scenes or working ahead of us for our benefit.
Why put our full being into a faulty person who WILL, not MIGHT, let us down?
With faith, there is that room for growth. We can have faith as small as a mustard seed and still move mountains (Matthew 17:20). With this thinking, we can know that the faults in the chair that we hope will support us, or the character flaws in the person we devote ourselves too, or the best friend that will say harmful things will sustain us in those times.
IT IS NOT THE REJECTION THAT HURTS, IT IS THE EXPECTATIONS.
In Psalm chapter 1, it says "...His delight is in the law of the LORD and on HIs law he meditates day and night..." A few months ago, my Daddy sat down with us kids and talked to us about this verse in Psalms in relation to trust/faith. The word 'Delight' is used in reference to the Psalmists entire being processing and hoping and devoting himself to the words of God. This is TRUST. You do not heavily meditate and study something you do not trust is accurate or reliable.
If we are trusting people, 1) we will be disappointed, and 2) we are pulling the power from God in our relationship with Him and focusing our attention on a human who will be born, live, and die. These people around us cannot give us the support, and love that we need and are searching for, but God CAN and SHOULD be demonstrated in our relationships/friendships with people.
With this thinking, I go back again to my original thought: Does this mean we are not to trust people but to trust God and to have faith in people?
I know that for me, I will keep praying and studying on this topic because too many times I allow my expectations and trust of people to hurt me and hinder my growth.
Rest in this: you will never regret fully placing your trust in God.
Much Love,
Stevie Rae
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